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Thursday, September 30, 2010

127. please put a leash on your wife.

Dear slutty-wife's husband,

I think your wife accidentally sent an email to my boyfriend, I am just returning it back.

I do not know who is really telling the truth, but your wife did send this picture.

I didn't actually want to send this photo to you, but my patience had reached it's limit. No matter how try I ignore it, it's still annoying. I have previously told her more than once and over the past year (i dont remember when was it), that to cut the ties with my boyfriend because their "friendship" is so distracting (and frustrating). I seriously do not give a damn, if they say that they are “close” friends and that they have been good friends way back I even came into the picture. I just want her to even forget she ever knew my boyfriend. Like I said, their “friendship” is very distracting.

For sure she will have her own reasons, may it be true, may it be a lie.

I don't know who is telling the truth and we might never know the real story.

Bottomline, she had a choice whether to send it or not.
And she had a choice what kind of picture she would send.

I want you to know, I don't want any disputes. But i think you deserve the right to know these things. Your wife already told me you know, but I personally would want to talk to you and tell you that I hope this does not happen again in the long or near future.

I am far from my boyfriend, and I will leave the country soon. I will have a hard time knowing what's going on, especially that all of you three are within San Francisco.

I already did my part on teaching my boyfriend his goddamn lesson on what part of “DO NOT DARE TALK TO HER EVER AGAIN”, he does not understand. And believe me he has learned his lesson and will not be talking to any other girl for that matter, anytime soon.

I’m sending this message, with the risk that you will confront my boyfriend. We already have our own issues regarding this experience. You don’t have to add to it. Let me take care of my boyfriend, and I will let you take care of your wife.

I dont think it’s appropriate to send this kind of photo, REGARDLESS of whatever reason. I hope you understand.

Please put a leash on your wife.



THIS IS THE DRAFT MY FRIEND HELPED ME MAKE.

actually... it was my boyfriend's friend who insisted that I should tell the husband.

My boyfriend's friend met this slut before while my bf and slut were still dating. AND FROM THIS FRIEND'S EYES AND WORDS, the slut was really a slut. I am just not being driven by what happened.

She just is as shown by her actions.

Everyone knew that my boyfriend was against PDA (public display of affection). The slut practically rapes him in front of friends, and this friend could see in my boyfriend's reaction how annoyed he was. (no wonder she got dumped quickly)

My boyfriend's SISTERS, on the other hand, suggested that I PUBLISH the picture on facebook.

My boyfriend's aunt, however, helped me tweaked the letter too.

These are from my boyfriend's circle of people. I was still confused.

I used to have a highschool/college brother whom I used to exchange advices with. I graduated 2 years ago, and he still hasn't finished his degree. He was stubborn in school, but in life he was very wise and unbiased. When I had my first heart break, he was the one I was talking in the phone all night with. When my parent's where having a big fight, he was the one telling me to hold on. When my dad practically destroyed my life because he found out I had my first boyfriend, this friend was the one who visited and defended me.

He was a good friend whom I have lost touched with because of me graduating and him still in school with other group of friends.

Then I messaged him.

"*****, can I ask for advice?"

"what's up"

"what should you do, when an ex-girlfriend sends a halfnaked picture to the ex-boyfriend, and the ex-gilfriend already has a hubby?"

"the guy with the picture, is he your BF?"

"no" (coz I totally expected what he's going to say,"break up with him")

(after few exchange of words)

"the hubby is my friend"

"a warning may be good, you really aren't in the picture to meddle with the situation because marriage is at stake here"

(and more exchange of words)

"okay.. fine... I will tell you the truth on how I am really related with these people. I did not tell you at first because I know you will be biased. But the thing is I really don't know the hubby and you were right, the guy with the picture is my boyfriend".

"WHY DIDN'T YOU TELL ME IN THE FIRST PLACE?"

"IF YOU DID TELL ME THAT HE WAS YOUR BOYFRIEND I WOULD HAVE GIVEN YOU A DIRECT ANSWER"

"I WOULD DESTROY HER"

This coming from a friend whom I know who always advices me to leave the guy whoever is hurting me.

Now I was even more confused.

"but that isn't the mature thing to do, right?"



Later on, I checked my blog.. 
and for the first time I was jam packed with comments.

I read different perspectives from different people.

Some biased, some positive, some negative. And yet, these readers doesn't really KNOW the ENTIRE story.

But a glimpse was enough to contribute opinions. (and I want my readers to know I greatly appreciated your voices!! <3)

Because of my COMMENTERS.

It made me realized....




More than revenge, what I really want is assurance.


assurance that this will not happen again.

And I will get that, by trusting my boyfriend again. But that would be hard right?... To trust someone again wholeheartedly without a single doubt?

Worst, we are in a LDR. It's not as if I would know what he is up to, 24/7.

He can multi-task.

Assurance.

So did I send the "Draft" to the husband?

That was really a draft for revenge....

So what did I really do....


I just messaged him.

Said lesser words...

I said, that I know that his wife and my boyfriend are good friends.

But I just wanted him to know that, I just told my boyfriend that I don't want him to be friends with her anymore. And he, as the girl's husband, is the only next person who can give me that assurance that they will not be friends anymore.

Whatever my reasons are... I will just keep it to my self.

I hope you understand. Thanks.



BUT AS SO YOU KNOW. I STILL WANT TO DESTROY HERRRRR!!!!! =P
war freak... war freakkk... war freakk.. i know....


"you are a terrorist" - boyfriend.


"that's why you don't mess with me" :)

10 comments:

  1. Hahaha. This post got me grinning, laughing, clapping and applauding. It's a good thing that you taught your bf a good lesson. I mean, in a way or another, he did have a fault here. Let's just hope and pray that he'd learned a lot from this. And with the letter to the husband, I personally don't like the idea.. but as you've said, only her husband can give you the assurance that the girl would be on permanent leash. So amen to that.

    LDRs really are difficult. And it's hard to trust a person again, after he'd broken it. Still, there's no harm in trusting him again.. you love the guy. Just have to make sure that he loves you back. So as not to repeat breaking your trust again.. =)

    So after some time to think, here you are. Hehe.. Still on war freak mode.. but, you handled the situation as maturely as possible. Bravo. =) Yahhooo!!

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  2. If you can't trust someone, there's no point in being in a relationship with them. Without trust, it's just not worth it. You spend more time worrying and trying to catch them in lies than you do enjoying their company, conversation and cuddling.

    That's my opinion. :)

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  3. This whole thing leaves a horrible taste in my mouth. I really like your blog for the most part, but this whole thing makes you come across as a horrible control freak that can't act like she is in her twenties instead of her teens.

    Like I said, I was there at exactly 22, too, with my daughter's father. And I thank god I didn't have a blog to publish my reaction upon because now, six years later, I am embarrassed of my reaction.

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  4. hi aggy :) i appreciate your concern.. but that's why my blog remains anonymous. and that's why i have a blog.

    it serves as an outlet to whatever emotion or issue I'm going through with :)

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  5. Yes, anonymous is good :) Hope things work out/calm down for you!

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  6. it takes 2 to tango. i suggest better break up with him. if he can't stand up for what he really loves (that is you) then maybe he doesn't really love you with his whole heart. you're rather biased to your boyfriend. if he really would cut off the relationship with her, he could have done it more frankly/justly than your revenge ever could.

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